If you find yourself asking ‘Why do I feel like such a failure’ then keep reading as I want to share something really important with you, something you won’t realise but that you really need to hear!
Before we get into that something, I’m guessing …
You’re trying your hardest but still can’t get everything done
You feel like you’re not coping
But because everyone else around you seems to be getting on just fine, it must be you
You must be the problem
You are somehow failing
NO YOU ARE NOT!
You’ve just been carrying too much for too long
DID YOU KNOW
Feeling like a failure is actually your nervous system signalling that you are doing to much at once, you feel overwhelmed, stressed and maybe burnt out too!
All of these drain your physical and emotional energy making basic daily tasks feel monumental and triggering feelings of guilt or inadequacy which in turn make you feel like a failure.
SO WHAT CAN YOU DO
Overwhelm is a response to every day stressors, the demands that are placed on us, day in, day out.
When we can’t shake the feeling of overwhelm it can lead to chronic stress.
So you would think that some stress management techniques would be the answer?
Well yes they are, but the most important first step you can take is to create some breathing space in your life. This is at the heart of everything I do.
I was chronically stressed for years, I tried all the stress management techniques available, and yes they did work to some extent, but my real transformation out of chronic stress and burnout only came about when I created some space in my life.
Below are some of the steps you can take to do just this:
Step 1
Take a moment to acknowledge all that you do – make a list of everything you are doing every single day, this will enable you to see just how much you are carrying.
Step 2
Ask yourself if there is anything on this list that you don’t need to be doing, can you delegate it to someone else, you can let it go, can you ask for help.
Step 3
Set some boundaries, this could be around your time for example, what you are and are not available for.
Step 4
Learn to say no, stop taking too much on and overcommitting.
Step 5
Ask for help – yes I know it’s hard asking for help, I really struggled with this but I was surprised how willing people were to help when I finally took the plunge and asked, even though it felt really uncomfortable doing so!
Final tips
I would suggest keeping a list of everything you do for a week as this will capture all the different things you are doing on different days
Don’t hold back, write a absolutely everything down no matter how big or small.
When you’ve got your list, don’t put pressure on yourself to work through all of the steps above, just start small, an easy win is just letting something go.
Did this resonate?
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